Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Remember the Small Things

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Yesterday, we celebrated the second anniversary of my husbands heart bypass surgery. This was the scariest thing to date that we've had to go through. We've lost loved ones. Buried our parents. Watched our kids grow up to have kids of their own (and yes, that's scary LOL) but nothing comes close to that moment when you go in for a routine test and find out that you're facing a life changing operation.

He doesn't remember much of those days few days he spent in the hospital the two days before his surgery. Or the days of and after for that matter. But he does remember my tears, and my fears, and every year, on the anniversary of his operation, he has me tell him the things he can't remember because he doesn't want to forget what we went through because we never want to be in that place again.

It's the same thing in everyday life. It doesn't matter if they're good times or bad ones. Remembering is the key. It is so easy to forget a challenging time that you've gone through. Sometimes, it's for your own sanity that you let the emotions fade away. Other times it's just life stepping in and those events you swore you'd never forget fade away as new ones take its place.

Even the good times fade away as new events fill the spots in your memory banks. It's those small things that make the big events so special and it's so easy to overlook those. So today, read a rejection letter that gave you the determination to push onward toward that first sale. Or the bad review that motivated you to write a better book because you wanted to prove the critic wrong. Take down the photo album and laugh and cry over the memories you've trapped inside. Don't keep them buried anymore, share them--and yes, even the embarrassing ones--with your spouse, kids, or best friend.

I know, it seems strange for someone to tell you to remember the bad or sad or scary times you've lived through, but here's why you should never forget: How can you appreciate where you are now, and the joys you've been given, if you forgot the stumbles, slips and falls that got you there?

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SandyG265 said...

I agree with you. If nothing bad ever happened we wouldn't appreciate the good things as much.

Barbara E. said...

Celebrating the anniversary of a terrifying event is a good way to keep in mind that you don't want to go through it again. I definitely agree that it's something we should all do.

bn100 said...

You make very good points. Hope your husband is doing well.


Unknown said...

Sandy, that's right and those rainbows wouldn't look as pretty either, would they ;)

Unknown said...

Barbara--Exactly! That's why we make it a point to celebrate the anniversary every year and talk about the things he can't remember. It makes us determined to do the right things and make the right choices so we never experience that again. Made me appreciate the little things in life, too. Never take a moment for granted.

Unknown said...

Thanks for asking about him, BN. Yes, he's doing amazing. We have a lot more doctors in our lives than we used to, but a very small price to pay.

Joni said...

I am so glad that you and your husband are able to celebrate this anniversary together. I totally agree to remember where you came from, it does make you appreciate where you are today. Bright blessings and good luck to you and your husband.